What to choose choose a sweetheart table or usual head table?

Hi

My wedding is coming up and I'm unsure about the table placements. I would like to sit with my friends, but traditionally you sit with the parents. I also don't want to hurt their feelings. I have found that sweethert's are trendy now: http://nuptia.ca/budget-planning/expert-...
Does anybody have some advice on this?

Thanks

We had some dilemma with this situation too. My parents are divorced and it's not all that friendly, so we couldn't sit with our parents. We didn't want a sweethearts table...but that seemed lonely. We wanted to sit with our bridal party, but there wasn't enough room for them and their significant others (it was important to us that they not be separated).

So what we did is we had a head table with us, my sister and her boyfriend, his sister and her boyfriend, his brother, his childhood best friend, his childhood best friend and wife.

It worked out really well for us.

I have never heard of the sweetheart table, but its a very cute idea. I am having a head table, but our parents won't be sitting at it, only me, my new husband, and our wedding party. (which is all friends and my one sister). Our parents will be sitting at one of the front tables with the rest of our guests.

Don't worry about hurting anyones feelings, it's YOUR and your HUSBANDS wedding, do that you two want.

Good Luck!!

We did a sweetheart table. It was great. The parents sat with their friends and relatives they hadnt seen in years. The bridesmaids and groomsmen all have families/significant others, so we did not want to split them up. The sweetheart table gave us a brief moment to talk to each other with no one else.

Personally, when I am a bridesmaid I dont like sitting at the head table because I dont necessarily know those people and its kind of uncomfortable. I dont need a spot light, the bride and groom do! Just my thoughts.

no, you don't traditionally sit with your parents at the reception. I've never seen that done. I think seating the wedding party at different tables with the rest of the guests is a good idea so everyone gets to know each other, otherwise if you have a head table for the wedding party, they are one clique that hangs out for the whole reception and doesn't mingle with the guests. so do the sweetheart table for you and the groom, and then seat your and the groom's parents at one table with some other guests, and then a pair of BM/groomsman at the other tables to mix in.

don't stress about table placements - you won't be sitting that much anyway....trust me....

unless you are having a full sit-down meal at your reception, you aren't going to be sitting down

Yes, I honestly don't like that at all: The separate sweethearts table for the wedded-to-be, I think it is tacky, lacking warmth, and insensitive, to family especially.

You should adhere to tradition if at all possible, that means the two of you should sit either at a table with both of your sets of parents; or at one set alone; or split your time between the two tables where the respective sets of parents are sitting. As for sitting with your friends, I advise against it strongly, in part especially since in all likelihood your friends are not all going to be at one table and you will end up offending the friends not sitting with you (you and your spouse to be) by making a choice as to which table of friends to sit at.

My cousins for their wedding in Port St. Lucie, FL; and I believe my brother for at least one of his two weddings did this sweethearts table (I did not much care for it then; and I don't like them now either, actually hate the idea altogether.).

My sister had a sweetheart table at her wedding, but she said she felt isolated, and didn't like it very much. We are sitting with our wedding party and putting our parents together at a table up front. Parent's know its about your day, they won't be upset, they already had their day :)

But really it's whatever you feel comfortable with a table for two can be cozy :)
Good luck

We're doing sweetheart table. I love them. Not only do you get some one on one time with your new hubby, but your bridal party can sit with their dates...it's a win win for everyone!

the sweetheart table is the way to go. that way your bridesmaids and groomsmen can go sit with their boyfriends/girlfriends or husbands/wives

My husband and I picked the Sweetheart table and it worked so well for everyone. Instead of us getting up the people are the one coming to us. I had one table for my parents and relatives and the other for my husbands parents. It also benefits the bridesmaids and groomsmen since most likely they will bring their own dates you don't want to restrict them from having them on the head table while they're significant others are seated with unknown people. The sweetheart table really works well during photo ops. I made mine to where i had each table get up and gather behind us on our table and take the pictures. We didn't missed anyone that way.

Usually you either choose the sweetheart table, with just the bride & groom, or you choose to have the bride & groom surrounded by the wedding party.
The parents are usually at a nearby table and are the "heads" of that table with some close friends/family.

Because two of our groomsmen are married and their wives are not in the wedding party, I was thinking of doing a sweetheart table so they could sit with their spouses. The best man (one of the 2 guys married whose wife isn't in the wedding) said I should do the full party table if that is what I want. He said he'd be able to get up and see his wife & kids when he wanted, but that if we want the party at the table with us, to do it.
He convinced me to have it my way, not accomodate everyone.

we will have a sweetheart table instead of usual head one! this will allows us to spend some time alone for a few "special"moments:-) i would recommend that...

A sweetheart table. No one does a head table anymore. It's better anyway. The whole room gets to see you and your new husband and you can seat the bridal party wherever you want. They can be mixed in all over the room sitting with their dates and who they are comfortable with and will have fun with. Then you can have 2 tables for each of the families (mom and dad and whoever they want at their tables)

A sweetheart table is the best way to go. I discuss this idea with brides. Two of them never heard of it and decided to trust me. Afterwards, they were sooooo grateful. They loved the idea to have those few moments to be by themselves. It was also a great focus point in the reception. This set up actually gave them the must needed break to relax and enjoy their reception dinner. I also found two special chairs for them. Many, many candles, greenery and flowers added to the table really made it special. Good luck.

We had a sweetheart table before they were trendy/popular and had tables reserved for our wedding party and their guests. That way they didn't have to eat buy themselves just because their date/spouse was in the wedding. It worked out great and everyone had a great time.

You will have plenty of time to spend with your friends. This is time to spend with your husband. It's your first meal together as husband and wife.

Sweethearts table! but you won't be sitting down much... i mean... you can set your table near ur parents?

Im having a sweetheart table but Im not going to be sitting very much, I can guarantee u that! I love my family and my guests and I think its better this way cause I know there r going to be more people wanting to sit at my table than I can have.So no hurt feelings for anyone.

We did a sweetheart table. I have heard that head tables are kinda not used much anymore. Everyone thought ours was very romantic!