What do you do when the object of affection is wearing a wedding ring?

I love my lecturer in college. By the way, i am 19 and he is 35. how to make him fall in love with me? Guys, i need ur answer. I dont want to make him have trouble in his marriage, but i just want to share the love that i feel. pls help me guys... thanks a lot..

Honey, that's not LOVE that you feel....it's LUST. There is no way you can fall in love with someone by sitting in a room and listening to them lecture week after week. Love is based on getting to know who someone truly is and you have no clue who this guy really is deep inside. Move on and find someone your own age who ISN'T married.

If you really respected him, you would not want to pursue this. He is already married.
Besides, you are probably just enamoured with his lectures and looks.

Bend at the waist, look down at the floor, and run as fast as you can into the nearest wall. When you wake up think of how this is what you will be doing to your heart if you go any further.

If he is wearing a wedding ring, LEAVE HIM ALONE. He is not yours. How would you feel if someone did this to you. It is completely disrespectful. What if had kids. You would be destroying a family. And as far as you don't want to make trouble in his marriage....that is exactly what you would be doing. Grow up

keep away from him....you already said that you dont want to make trouble in his marriage...but if you reveal your feelings to him...that is most likely to happen especially if he finds you attractive too or if he wants to cheat around....save yourself from heartache and dont be the cause of a marriage falling apart....

Don't do anything. Do you really want to be responsible for breaking up a marriage, especially if they have kids. then you will screw up the kids because kids from divorced parents always have issues. even if they don't have kids its wrong. i really hope this guy is a lot smarter then you so even if you hit on him he will reject you. i know its hard to believe when your young, but there will be other guys that become your object of affection, preferably single.

You stay away! How can you say "I don't want him to have trouble in his marriage" and then say you want him to share the love you feel? Don't, steer clear, he is someone elses man and you have NO right to make a move on him. That would lead to trouble. Apart from anything he is your lecturer, which means he could lose his job (as well as his marriage) if he had any relationship other than a professional one with you. Stay away from him, look for a man that is free to have a relationship with you.

This is such a typical situation! I fell in "love" with my nerdy psych professor my freshman year. I see him now and laugh at my crush. I had a crush on another instructor. I actually hung out with him a few times and realized that the classroom persona that I thought was so endearing did not carry over into real life.

You don't want him to have trouble in his marriage? Really? Then forget about it. Check out the guy without the ring (or girlfriend) sitting next to you in class.

This isn't real love. You're just infatuated. And you WILL ruin his marriage if he agrees to cheat on his wife. How could you think that your "love" for him needs to be shared? You need to rethink what love really is. You're being selfish by even thinking about this. You should NEVER get involved with someone who is married. Date someone you're own age and at your own (low) level of maturity.

LEAVE HIM ALONE. What kind of woman goes after a married man? (I can think of several words but I would probably be reported)

Maybe you should look at your notebook while you're listening and taking notes. When you look up periodically, how about checking out the guy a few rows over who is actually available? Bet he'd be fun to know if you could figure out a way to strike up a conversation.

You grow up, realize he's married and off the market, and get over it. Besides, those teacher/student relationships are NEVER a good thing. What you're feeling is infatuation. Not love.

Grow up, get over it and move on.

Well coming from the point of view of a 35 year old married woman, I would say he wears his wedding ring for a reason. he's married honey. That means he's made vows to someone else. You would be causing trouble in his marriage and in his life if you "declared"your love for him. my best advice would be to find someone else alot closer to your own age, and leave the married lecturer alone. And a little FYI.....IF you declare your love, and it goes further then just a verbal declaration you could get kicked out of school and he could loose his job... and I'm sure his job,wife,and kids mean more to him then that. I hope ive helped you. Good Luck.

You move on to someone else. In your case, fast. There is such an age gap between you on top of that that I can't even imagine what you would have in common. You can't make anyone fall in love with you because you are manipulating their free will when you do. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Would you want someone you are not attracted to making you fall in love with them when you don't want that attention?