What is the proper etiquette on sending sympathy cards and memorial money?

Should you send the card to the funeral home, or to the family?
Who do you make the check out to, the memorial of their choice, or the family, or the funeral home??

If you send it to the family, do you send it to the address of the deceased or the person in the family that you know best?

Hi there. You would send the card to the family at their home, and not that of the deceased if it is different. The memorial money you make out to whoever they have nominated in lieu of flowers with a letter stating the name of the person who has deceased. Dont send these things to the funeral home. Hope this help.

in my opinion send it to the family where when they are in funeral home. Adress it to the deceased, but your sempathy is for the family though. im also confused with my answer.

i personally would send the card to the person in the family i knew best - marking it to them and their family. if they have requested that money is to be sent and not flowers they would normally say how to get it there. i wouldnt send them the money cause that wouldnt look right. you can send it straight to the charity etc and let them know you made a donation - no amount has to be discussed.

I'd mail it to the person who is in charge of taking care of burial and what not, the executor of the estate so to speak. Make the check out to that person also .

Send it to the person that you know best, and make the check out to the memorial that they request. If you make it out to a person they have to cash it and then write a check to the memorial.

Sorry for the loss first of all, I think most people send cards & monies to the closest family member, often people do not know what funeral parlor will be used so they send everything to the family member ....good luck, grief is a hard one eh.....