How can i stop being so irritable and insecure about my relationship?

I have a great boyfriend but i think i'm going to lose him if i don't sort myself out. i get angry about little things he says if i think it means he doesn't like me anymore. once i even slapped him. i really love him and i wish i wasn't like this. he says he still loves me. but he deserves better. and i really need to be more secure and less irritable and generally be the best girlfriend ever so i can make it up to him and show him how much i care. there is a history of depression in my family and i don't want that to happen to me so i need to fix this now. i am so worried about it, i can't sleep or eat properly. please help me. any advice would be great. thank you. xxx

I can understand the position you're in.It happens in relationships.Just be calm and think about whats happening.Try to control your anger.If he says anything and you get angry don't say a word for a while and try to stay calm.Talk to him about how you feel about certain things that he says and express how much you love him.Arrange a romantic dinner or take a long walk at the beach.Make him feel special and laugh about the silly things that you've done together.Just control your anger.

I can tell you right now that the depression thing is going to be your scapegoat. That's what you want to blame, btu depressed people don't get mad at things, they don't care about anything right or wrong. So that's not the problem.

What you need to do is get away. Just simply leave on a weekend retreat all by yourself, so you can get back in tune with yourself and what you really want. Sounds to me like you're very confused and choose to pick at every little thing becuase you're not sure what you want, only that it's not exactly what you want at the time.

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Well the first clue is given by you when you say you don't eat---depression is connected to poor eating habits--no food or the wrong food--including too much sugar, white flour and additives such as MSG are linked to bizarre behavior. You have developed acquired habits from an exposure to depression in your family--serious habits such as physical violence and fighting will never endear him to you--You don't have any idea what love is--so stop using the word. You are abusive and insecure--you better work on those issues before you expect a relationship to flourish. Sounds like you aren't ready for a boyfriend--you are in need of a serious physical from a doctor--the rages are bad news. Millions suffer from what you describe--it is up to you to figure it out...before you wind up in serious trouble. Good luck