How do you start over when all you have known since birth is abuse from men?

Therapy...

You are not at fault for any of the things that have been done to you.

You can only start over by tracing back the patterns that have gotten you into these situations.

Avoid those patterns and move forward with an open heart & a prayer

Best wishes

First you have to not blame yourself. (I have been there for 38 years). I strongly believe in counseling, it has been a good thing for me over the years. The best thing I have learned is that I did not deserve any of it and real men are not supposed to act that way. It is difficult to change the way of thinking that we (as women who have been abused) have been taught to think was normal). I found through therapy that there is a whole person in me that I never even knew existed. I finally was able to get MAD about all the abuse and from that I was able to make better choices and see the red flags for an abuser. The YWCA offers classes that are great for women who have been abused in any way.Take time for you, do not date any one (I have not in 2 and a half years) take time to find out who you are and what you want out of life. You will be surprised at the new way you look at life. You start to see that you are a real person and deserve all your dreams to come true and realize that there is not a man out there who can take that away from you. You become strong and through that strength you begin to live.

what doesn't kill u makes u stronger, be proud of who u are. my biological father is a pedophile and abused my mother and sexually abused my auntie from the age of 6 and i was raped 1 day on my way from school when i was 13 if all this sh!t didn't happen to me and my family when i was younger i wouldn't be the person i am today and to be honest with u i am proud of who i am the people who have hurt me physically and emotionally in the past have made me a stronger person today.

I agree with Lisa G...we continue in these abusive patterns because we don't know how to break the vicious cycle..so that's where therapy helps so much...also there will come a time when you realise that you really do have a choice to stop this cycle or continue...but therapy will help you understand how you can make these choices..

You can Choose not to be a life long victim.

Geo

get theropy and learn self defence and if they try it again u beat the hell out of him make him cry get a sludge hammer LOL