What is the most important thing in to remember and not to remember in marriage?

What have you learned?
What do you wish you knew years before you started a marriage?
Hints that marriage with this person many not be such a good idea?

Rant anything you want not necessarily the questions I used, that was just examples. <3

Remeber the good times/forget the bad. Therefore, love and forget the "mud"... that never needs to be thrown at each other.

Friendship, communication, compromise, trust, respect and love. Never go to bed angry, always try to work it out or decide when to let the anger go. Talk don't yell (you never know who will hear you). Spend time together but take time for yourself. Marriage was great!!!

Here, try this Jamaican proverb on for size:
"Before you marry, keep both eyes open...after marrying, shut one"

The grass is not greener on the other side....and do not get into debt......open communication is important.....Keep God in the center of your marriage and family!!!! Good Luck!!!

The most important thing is to love the person. That was my greatest lesson. The next thing is to make sure you respect them fully and trust them. If they are going to buddies or girlfriends without you.... it's not going to work. A marriage isn't including the other in everything, but almost everything. In marriage two people should form one super person. Hard to explain. If in doubt, don't get married. Some people call it the jitters, I call it the 7 year marriage.

Remember that you loved the person enough to want to plan a life with him. With that in mind be polite and respectful. Try to discuss, not argue. Mediate your disagreements and don't go to bed mad. If you feel the urge to cheat, either of you, don't get married.

Remember: if you look forward to your lives in the years ahead, and the person that you are imagining is the person standing in front of you, you're doing ok. If that person in the idealized future is not the person you're with (could be same body, different person!), you should rethink things.

Don't remember: the occasional screw-ups. If we were judged by them, we'd all be in trouble. :-)

Good luck!

The most important thing I've learned in this marriage is that it takes at least 10 years to train the man properly. I have 7 more to go.

If you hold onto baggage one of you will end up leaving with it. Learn to unpack the past--keep what fits and throw out the old.

never go to bed mad!

i can sum marriage up in one word = compromise

and LOTS of it! then again, i'm not married and never will be. i'm a divorce attorney.

remember: the only thing opposites attract is divorce.

Remember your anniversary. Remember not to forget.

You are ALWAYS right and HE IS WRONG

I learned a lot in 30 years. I have learned that when he doesn't feel like talking, let it go. Sometimes distance is the best thing. When he wants to talk, there ya go. I do have one hint, watch how he treats his mother. Is he good to her without being a mamas boy? Then you have a winner.

I wished I would have known him and his ex wife still had a thing going on...

i leave town for a few days come back. Her stuff is all over the bathroom. I asked him about. He said oh she needed a place to stay.

He played the role of Bill Clinton. I did not have sex. I never touched her. She is the one who gave me the bj.

After 15 years of marraige I learned that I should not trust anyone even my own husband. One should live with open eyes. Always trust what your mind trusts and not your heart.

I've been married for 24 years and I only have one piece of advice:

Don't get married.

...your spouse's name.

That marriages like all relationships fail because either one or both people commit acts of selfishness instead of acts of selflessness.