What are some important questions to ask yourself before a seperation or divorce?

do u still love him and does he you? are the problems workable, and anything is workable unless its abuse, or betrayal. how are u going to feel when he is really gone? are there children to consider? will u really be happy if there is a divorce?

You weight the pros and cons out . 1: Has this person been unfaithful? When i say unfaithful i mean have they committed adultery and can you prove it? 2: Is the other person abusive physical are mentally. 3: Is this person the family provider and not providing? God gives the right to you to divorce if a person commits adultery. He also say obey the law of the land. The law of the land give you a right to divorce for abuse and neglect. It also give you the right to prosecute the other person for abuse and neglect. But there is something called common sense. If you have children who is witnessing you being abused and you don't want to divorce are separate from the person. Your children should not be subjected to it. If none of these things apply. Just remember your vows and all of this too will pass. I know it may not sound right to some persons. But i am going to tell you to "Trust God" Do what is right. Be quite sometimes and the answer what to do will come to you. Hope i have been some help to you. Don't worry about what happen to the material things. You can always get more. Peace is better than any thing in the world. Good luck.

When you marry, there are two people in your bedroom.
When you divorce and re-marry there are four people in your bedroom.

If there is adultery or abuse, it is best to end the marriage.

Many couples do not realize marriage needs maintenance, typically like taking care of a car, you fuel it, tune it up, have it checked out if there's a problem an indicator light comes on and even if it's a major repair, it's cheaper than a new car.

I like to ask women who have been married a long time, what's their secret? One woman told me she had a Good Man. One told me not to sweat the small stuff.

I myself have been divorced and re-married, my first husband and I needed marriage maintenance after 17 years together, to make a long story short, my life would have been better to have stayed married.

My present husband and I share yours, mine and ours and it's complicated at times, I accept the in differences but it's a lot of loving understanding.

I realize my situation is not your situation but I hope that I offered you some insight to consider.

Good Luck To You

I think you should try to remember what made you fall in love, remember the special times you shared, dig up all those GOOD things, then look at whatever the issue is on had and say to yourself 鈥?is it worth giving up鈥? I think divorce should be a last option, if an option at all. I think true love never dies and many people have regrets after divorce. But not all鈥? Good luck with your decision!

Can you picture your husband in the arms of another woman, with her in your bed & not feel upset or jealous? If the answer is , yes and I really don't care, then you might be ready to leave. BUT if the answer is no or I'm not sure I'm ready for that, then maybe you should reconsider & see if you can work things out.

Are you really making the right decision? What will my everyday life be with out this person? Is there anymore counseling or help that can save our marriage? How will the kids react (if any)? Is there any chance that I can feel the love that I felt for him/her when we first met again? How will I react when I see him/her in another relationship?

Are you positive you have done all you can to save this relationship?
Do you have a plan for where to live, how to support yourself, etc..
Have you talked to a lawyer?
Are you ready to start a new life and move forward?

"can i fix this if i really work on it?"
'are they (or am i) staying in it only out of guilt or obligation?"
"Do i know that i love them?"
"Do i want to make this work?"

Will i regret this. Can i be on my own, Have i done everything i can to fix this marriage. Am i ready to move on.

why did i marry this person?

why is it different now?

can this be fixed?

answer these three and i think you will know what to do

Who gets the dog...not kidding I seen a couple drag each other into court and spend thousands on lawyers over the dog....btw wifey got it...

1) what are the issues that GOT you here.

2) can you live without the other... once they are gone.

"What madness made me even try to live with this person"

Can I keep that lamp?

do i really need this anymore

who gets the house and the car?