What are reasons that you will end or postpone a wedding?

I am getting married this year, my fiance proposed at our six month anniversary.

We have been together for 8 months total and we are now planning a wedding.

He is just not compromising on a few things such as traditions that we do before the wedding and wedding plans.

I am not happy with a few things. My parents are not happy with the way he is acting either.

My parents want us to postpone the wedding till next year or call it off, as i am getting upset constantly.

What would you do?

Your parents are probably right. I'd postpone, and if it still doesn't work then call it off. If you are this unhappy before the marrage and can't seem to compromise, then imagen how it will be afterwards? You need to compromise a lot in a marriage, it can't always be your way or his way. Try a converstaion with him on the issue, and ask if it is something he is willing to work on or if it is just something he feels that strongly about. It is difficult to change someones values, but a little easier to sway an opinion.

If your traditions are that important to you, do not falter. If he does really love you, he will understand that it means alot to you. If you are getting this upset now, and you aren't even married yet... I think you should probably wait. If he doesn't improve his behaviour ( I know this would be hard..) then he might not be the right one for you. It's less painful to break up now than to have to go through a painful divorce later. Keep it in mind.

As your parents are outside your emotions> Might want to listen to them> It's only a small time to see how it plays out>compared to a life of misery>

S&H

I'd change my mind and put an end to all of his BS. And there would be no wedding.

I would find another girlfriend who wasn't as picky as you are

if it would happens to me and i dnt like this marriage i'l cancel it.i'll nt enter into the life which will make me unhappy after knowing it b4.

Only go ahead if you are 100% sure, you'll regret it BIG time if you get it wrong.

I personally feel that you are diving in to a marriage WAY too soon. Give it a few years before you tie the knot. It takes years to really get to know your partner, you think you might know them 100% now but you don't.

Your parents are correct, listen to them, trust their judgment.

Glamour, if you are posting here, there are MORE than a few things that are bothering you AND your family...if he isn't compromising NOW, he sure isn't going to later on...can't teach an old dog new tricks so to speak...

If you are smart, you'll wait. There are more fish in the sea if it comes to that!

Good luck....

I would postpone for a few years. 8 months is not nearly enough time to really see if it will work. The first couple years of every relationship is perfect. If he's already acting funky now, WAIT 3+ years. Good luck, I hope you make the right decision.

It's not about the wedding.. it's not about the parents.. quit focusing on the wedding and focus on your future marriage.. if you are having problems with your future spouse and how he handles issues / problem solving with you, you need to wait and see if you two can develop the skills to work this out together.. but, the wedding is the least important part of marriage.

if ur not happy now u'll be less happy later.....wait

I would postpone the wedding. The invitations aren't out are they? Marriage is forever and you wouldn't want to get married just because you are planning a big wedding and it might upset someone or you might miss out on a deposit. Postponing does not mean canceling. Of course if you postpone it and cannot work out some kinks in your relationship, then you were given a gift. That gift is not going through a divorce from someone that you didn't know well enough before you got married. Knowing someone is not measured in time spent together, but in the quality of time spent. My advice is to go wth your "gut"..Don't listen to your family, though I am sure they mean well. Are you thinking it best to postpone? Then do. If you want to go through with it, do, but REALLY talk with your fiance, tell him how you are feeling. Honesty is the best thing to have in ANY relationship. Good luck and God bless both you and your upcoming marriage.