Is it morally wrong for an older man to date a younger woman whom is seeking a father figure?

Let's say a woman comes from a emotionally distant and abusive home and seeks older men.

Would he be doing something morally good by providing her love, affection, protection, and being a strong partner and holding her while she is in pain?

Or would he be acting immorally because unmet needs and pain, and emotional transference makes her vulnerable and distorted?

Please respond to the question but don't direct your questions at me. The fact that I inquire about this situation, does not follow that I am in it! Thanks!

Provided he'd try to protect her to build her up rather than making her codependent upon himself, I would argue that he is doing a good thing for her. Having someone who loves and protects her, is more than a therapist can offer (though I am not negating the need for professional help).

It depends on her situation, completely. There are plenty of "normal" girls who are attracted to older men. Delve into the situation and gage her mental state. You could (if you were the man) date her respectfully and at the same time, offer her professional help to work through these issues.

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I don't think a guy should date a girl looking for a father figure. She needs to figure out herself before being involved in a serious relationship or otherwise it most likely won't work out. It is okay however for a man to date a younger woman if they both are looking for the same thing out of the relationship and have the same wants/desires in life. I think the older man can form a friendship only relationship with the girl though to help her find herself, just not to involve sex. I am with a guy 32 years older, and we couldn't be happier, but I wasn't looking for a father!

Yes, I think it wrong and nasty. This girl have issues and that older man is not her pastor or therapist for the help she needs. If this young lady gets the help that she need and still want to marry the man, who are we to judge?

Dunno.

However it may have a weird effect on your sex life.

Then again, maybe you're misjudging your potential impact on her life...maybe she just likes you.

Morality and immorality are completely subjective and can only really be judged by the people in the situation. As long as the two of them are okay with it, it is not something that should be judged by anybody else. As long as they are both consenting adults that is!

I think more than a father figure is looking for security, and that's what the older man can give to the young woman - who is an adult and has already been formed - and for what it looks like, knows what she wants and where to find and who can give it to her. That's something I wouldn't ever buy, or let it last for more than some months.

If he really loved her I see nothing wrong in that. The problem is that does he really love her or is he using her? It's a risky thing to do if she is emotionally unstable because when or if she gets better she may not need the guy anymore. Then he will get hurt if indeed he loves her. Problems unresolved create more problems.

On the other hand, I am with a guy 18 years older than me and I love him very much. He loves me too, and sort of 'rescued' me perse from having a shitty life. We have been together for many years and every day gets better.

Life and love is a gamble. If you don't play you don't win. If you do play, you can seriously lose. Nothing is guaranteed, but sometimes the weirdest situations turn into the best situations. <3