What is the best way to approach your spouse about seeking marriage counseling?

If you are pretty sure your spouse does not suspect a problem, in what way should you approach them and ask them to go to a marriage counselor with you? You don't want to hurt them, but they need to know you are having trouble with something. What would you say?

God bless.

I would start out by telling him that you personally have decided that you are going to start to see a counselor and that you would really like his support with something you are dealing with.

I would go to see your therapist one on one the first time to get out in the open what the issue is and then tell them that you would like to invite your husband to a future session to start working on the issue.

the therapist will probably want to ask you a few questions first to have a good platform of what the issue is. Then you can say everything you want w/ out him there and you don't have to worry about hurting his feelings.

When you are ready to invite him. Tell him that your therapy is really working for you and you feel that it's doing some good. Ask him if he wouldn't mind going with you to a session. Tell him that somethings came up that your therapist thought might be good to have both of you come to a session together. Tell him in a cheerful voice and don't act whiny or sad because you want to invite him not discourage him.

I hope this helps

I would tell them that I am unhappy and that we do not seem to be able to resolve these challenges on our own, so I would like to go to counseling.

Be honest, open, and upfront.

I also do not feel that going to marriage counseling should be the first step to solve a problem, though. I think people should try and work out their problems first.

Make him believe that it is all about you and you need his support to work on things for yourself. This way he may feel that he is helping you and the therapist will take over from there very carefully.

Honey, you know i love you, but I want you to know there is something that is bothering me. I know we both can come through, so i want us to go to counseling.

Direct, not blaming or hurting your partner for it.

I would just come straight out with it. But be tactful when you tell him / her. Try not to make it sound like you are blaming all of your problems on them. Do it when you are both in a good mood.

I would be honest and direct. Communication is the very first step in getting your point across. I think I'd just say "I've made an appointment with a counselor to help me deal with some issues we're having". Good luck.

just tell him that you have arranged counselling for yourself because you are not happy with...........
does he want you to arange any for him
be straight for goodness sake